Disability Rights

Vile letter to a mother with a disabled child – and my reply

This is a cross-post by John Sargeant from homo economicus

Dear Pissed Off Mother,

This lady also lives in the neighbourhood. Not only does she have to look after someone who has severe learning difficulties – something you clearly cannot comprehend with your “normal” children – she now has you to contend with.

How selfish of her to let the boy out for fresh air. Has it occurred to you that she maybe cannot on her own take her son out?

Is the neighbourhood trying to see if they can assist in the quality of life of mother and son, so they can access the nature trail? Somehow I doubt this when you cannot even be bothered to find out the names of the lady and her son.

The noise can be monotonous – thank goodness you only hear it when he is outside. Not in the early hours of the morning or late at night as his mother has to. Your hatred blinds you that it is quite normal for a mother to protect as best she can her son and love him – as a mother your lack of empathy is only matched by the raving quality of your penmanship.

Having lauded the normality of your own children you feel the need to tell her of the experiences as a mother she will never get to have with her own son possibly. I say possibly, because I question your expertise in being informed on these things.

As you charmingly put it:

“they should take whatever non retarded body parts he possesses and donate it to science.”

For you to deal with people in the community I suggest you vamoose (two o’s by the way) to a learning disability awareness workshop and possibly a biology lecture. We can hope cured of your ignorance you may be fit to rejoin the human race. It may be too late.

You do not need guts to tell someone to move – just vile hatred, lack of empathy and a sickness of the mind to think and communicate such thoughts.

“Do the right thing and move or euthanize him!!! Either way, we are ALL better off!!!”

We are all better off looking out for the most vulnerable in our society. You had a chance to fulfil the promise of humanity and reach out to another mother to see what anyone could do to help, to understand the situation.

You failed spectacularly to reach the expectations of being a person, an empathetic mother and a decent human being. Your shame is your own, not hers.

Do the right thing and try to be human. NOW!!


One pissed off brother, full time carer of.

[Update: link to full story on Mail Online]

Update 20 August 3pm:

Seems the boy Max Begley was actually staying at his Grandmothers. His mother has multiple sclerosis which makes the job of caring for him that much harder.

The Independent reports neighbours rallying round supporting Max’s right to play outside.